Because many men fear that if they marry a Chinese woman, she is only doing it to improve her financial status and because it is often a question that men email me about, I am writing this article. Not everyone has visited or lived in mainland China, not to mention dating a cross-section of Chinese women, so there are certainly some types of information that you need to be aware of, no matter in the early stages, or even at the stage of dating. marriage. .
Even though I had been involved in the Chinese community in my own country for many years, and had dated Chinese girls in my own country as well, it did not prepare me for mainland Chinese women at all!
Let me say this to start, as this is definitely something to pay attention to: Chinese women do not express their feelings or thoughts in the same way as Western women, and this can really confuse some Western men; testimony to this fact is my email box! Even some clues and signs that you may think show your feelings may simply be your culturally conditioned behavior misleading you. Essentially, Chinese women are taught from a young age to act a certain way so that they can secure a husband, their mothers deliberately raise them this way. When they reach adulthood, they don’t really know they’re doing this, especially for women from mainland China.
So how can we know that a Chinese woman really loves us, since it is a fact that in Chinese culture love is No a prerequisite for marriage, if that wasn’t the case, we really wouldn’t need to ask this question. However, I can say that there are a lot of Chinese women who are totally genuine, honest and loving, not to mention beautiful. In China, Chinese people often consider love as an action, for example, if a Chinese woman cooks for you, she raises your children or even takes care of you when you are sick, she would say in all honesty that she ‘loves’ you. . Few women in Chinese culture would consider this a form of cheating as in Chinese culture it is not!
In any case, so that we can make sure that your Chinese girlfriend or fiancé really has feelings for you, let’s take a look at some clues:
If a Chinese woman shows concern for your health, it may be an indicator that your feelings are starting to run deeper than just friendship. In the culture, a Chinese woman, and especially a wife, must show some concern for the health of her husband; so if she is in the beginning stages of the relationship and she is doing this with you, then that is a very good indicator that she really has feelings for you. This is also a way that many Chinese women try to give a man a hint that he likes her, so either way, it’s a good sign!
Another great clue that your potential Chinese girlfriend or girlfriend’s feelings are genuine, and that she may be deeply in love with you, is that green-eyed monster called ‘jealousy’. Most Western women repress or control this emotion, but this is hardly the case with Chinese women; I can assure you that this is an emotion that Chinese women are more than happy to express when they feel it!
The suppression of jealousy is actually mainly related to the native English-speaking countries and has its roots in British culture, it is definitely not part of the Chinese national character in any way! So, if you see jealousy in her eyes when you pay attention to another girl, then you know that she most likely has a crush on you!